Sometimes the holidays seem a let down, do you ever feel that way? I have been with my husband since September 2003, so our first Christmas together would of been that December, the tree in his apartment was a white canvas tree, which we put red lights on, and (2) wood ornaments with x on them. My apartment had no tree, and by this time, I was spending Thursday-Sunday at his place anyway.

I noticed he did not get excited about Christmas like I do, and afterwards he was lacking in enthusiasm, here is a man who is basically a happy person. He always sees the positive in situations. I could not understand it, I know our first Christmas together was a bit overwhelming with my family, we had been together only a few months and everyone was asking when are you getting married? Or my Aunt who said, June is perfect for the wedding as if we were already engaged.

Then after our 2nd Christmas, it became a pattern, this year was our 5th Christmas together, and yes, he gets down, unproductive and down right moody. I told him, that he has a distint pattern, starting right after Thanksgiving which he seems to love, he gets down all of December and the first week of January, then he snaps out of his funk. He did not really believe me but then he looked back at his journals, and realized that I was right and my observations were worth looking into. He has now created a type of Journal to see his growth, and if any non-growth through out the years. You can see it on his latest post on www.hdbizblog.com

I was wondering who else has patterns around certain times of year? I know that I do, mine is around April 15 after the Tax Season and right before Wedding Season Begins, I freak out, that I will mess up, or one of my brides will freak out on me. Compelete anxiety, I may seem all put together when it comes to my brides, but I am wrecked with anxiety and self doubt the week of each of their weddings.

I realize that weddings are so special for each bride, and I want it to be even more perfect then the bride, because to me, with all the planning, money and time that went into it, they deserve it to be perfect. I am also realistic, and know no wedding is ever perfect, but if the bride does not see the behind the scenes and the bride and groom are so happy then I have done my job. A wedding plannners real job is to keep the day running smoothly, and basically the bride in the dark, so she can really embrace the day and not worry about what is not happening. Brides need to give up control the day of their wedding to enjoy it.

As, my husband and I approach our 3rd wedding anniversary in March, every day I am thankful for him and our life together. We might not have much but we have the most important thing, love and respect and laughter in our lives. Our wedding was the most special day, but after it was over, I was more excited to be Stephen's wife than our wedding day. Your memory may fade but my advise to all brides, remember the vows and why you are there in the first place, not that the napkin fold was wrong, or the wrong color was used on the wedding cake. It is you and he that is the most important aspect of every wedding.

Well, it is going to be 2008 very soon. I love to look back, and then I don’t, because sometimes it is so painful.

In September 2006 we moved from Charlotte, NC to Winston-Salem, NC. I started working at the Twin City Quarter (Embassy and Marriott), and we settled into a wonderful house on Peaceheaven road. We moved in the pouring rain, the year before in 80’ weather so this was better wasn’t it?

Stephen got a Sales Position with Flow Auto at the Used Parking Lot, long hours. He liked his boss John very much, then in November John was promoted and they got a new boss, not a nice guy.

In November 2006, I found out one of my ex-boyfriends Seth Hicks died of liver disease. Seth was one of those ‘nice” guys, who had some issues with alcohol, but was never nasty or mean. He meant well for everyone, I heard that he was doing better health wise, but then I read his Obit in the newspaper. I just never thought I would outlive old boyfriends since most are at least 5 years younger than me. It makes you wonder what life is all about.

In December 2006 we drove 13 hours to spend Christmas with my family, on Christmas Eve on our way to see my friend Thomas, Claudette and Tom we were hit by a Deer. I was driving and it made me feel awful because it is Stephen’s car. On Christmas Day, we drove back to North Carolina with a cracked windshield, I could not drive during the day, and it gave me a headache. It did not feel like Christmas at all way too rushed.

2007 has been an interesting year, we started the year out with our new friends Alex and Michelle, we started out with Cheese Fondue and then ended the evening with Chocolate Fondue, and can you tell we were having a theme New Years Eve? We played “Cranium”, a game I recommend with 4 or more people, so much fun.


January came in with about 50’ weather in North Carolina so it was not so bad, Stephen changed jobs again with Flow, this time over at the Value Mart, he seemed to like his new boss and the hours were better. We started working out every morning to “Turbo Jam” , a gift from my sister to help me lose weight.

February was a bit warmer, work for me was picking up big time, groups, groups, groups! Which is good, I love being busy. Unfortunately, in February my friend Wayne LeCardo was killed in an automobile accident, due to an underage kid on a cell phone going to fast, he was also killed. Very Tragic accident, my heart goes out to Kate Wayne’s Widow. Wayne and Kate were the couple you wanted to be, definitely soul mates, always just loved being together.

This was the 2nd death unexpected of people I knew and cared about throughout my life. My first thought, was oh my gosh who is number #3, because these things happen in 3. That scared me but after months of nothing, I put it aside in my head.

March came and with it our 2nd wedding anniversary. We went out to dinner to Noble’s with his parents who came to visit from Illinois. It was a nice trip; I did get a red potato peeler. I am not a cook that is my entire husband but I have decorated our Kitchen in all red appliances, Kitchen aide is the preferred vendor of choice. It was also my mom and dad’s birthdays, we sent cards. I drove to Hilton Head, to spend a few days, with my mom, Sister Lynne and niece Lauren. It was a little cold the few days I was there, so we drove to Savannah on St. Patrick’s Day, so crowded. We had such fun, we got Lauren in with no problem (she was only 19), took pictures galore, if I can find them I will post (the ones I can). What a generation, Mom 60ish, Lynne 45, Myself 42, and Lauren 19 all parting together, I am sure people were looking at us funny.

April came in and the weather was beautiful spring in North Carolina, hardly any rain. His sister Staci, and her daughters Brittini and Traci came for a week vacation from Lacrosse, WI. The girls did get to swim in our pool, and spend time with Uncle Stephen. Stephen moved again, this time to E-Commerce at Flow, no more sales on the floor; his job was on the phone and to set appointments for the sales team. Hours 9-6pm, so much better for us, then his 9-8 or 9-10 nights when he first started at Flow.

May came and with it we started taking more day trips, up to Mount Airy, NC, to see the Vineyards all over Yadkin Valley in North Carolina. It was so wonderful to see the interstates (highways) with the beautiful flowers in bloom. We did go to Charlotte, and have dinner with our friend Lori, and stayed over after a little too much wine. Also, in May we went out to dinner with Alex and Michelle to “Melting Pot” in Greensboro, NC. We love Melting Pot so worth the price. Just do not eat too much during the day; you will make up for it there.

June came and I was working out more and more because my 25th class reunion was coming up at the end of the month, and due to going alone, I wanted to look “Fine”.
I got in on Friday, and Claudette picked me up, I stayed with her, and we went out to dinner at AZU with Thomas and Tom. Thomas was being a jerk, not wanting to be there, then embarrassing the waiter, I would not be surprised if the waiter spit in his drink or food, Believe me if I was the waiter it would have been my first thought. We dropped him off at his apartment and we went out for a few more drinks. Saturday, Claudette and I called him for him to come meet us for Breakfast, we only got his Voice Mail. We hung out all day, and then I left for my reunion. Around 11pm, I called and Claudette came and picked me up, we were suppose to meet up with Thomas but he bailed out on us, if I knew what was going to happen in another 6 weeks, would I have treated him any differently? It was a wonderful weekend.

July 4th, we hung out at the Pool at the Complex, made a big dinner and pretty much that was about it, nothing special for us. It was now about 95’-110’ and my jeep has no A/C so I was driving the Sonata to work and picking Stephen up after work. It pretty much faded right into August, only the weather was worse then ever, then on August 23 everything changed for me, in the morning I applied for a job in Maine at the Sebasco Harbor Resort, not really thinking they would call me, but I really wanted to get back to New England.
At 10am, I received a call from my friend Donna Russo from the Spa at Norwich Inn, she did not want to tell me but Thomas had passed away. I collapsed, screaming, crying not a good scene especially since I was at work. Here was my number 3, but not my best friend, love of my life who I just talked to a few days ago. It was too much to bare.

I remember calling Stephen right afterwards, he told me he was coming to get me, and I was like no’ I have to work, he was very firm, and no I am coming to pick you up Then I called Claudette, she was driving I told her to pull over, then I told her. She was on her way to work, and they sent her home. Stephen came and picked me up, and he had already booked my flight, and was making arrangements. Here is a man who lets me do all that for him, he took charge. I appreciated that so much, when the phone rang, he screened all my calls. I did call everyone I knew who would want to know. My worse call was to Michael, Thomas’s love of his life. Michael is not gay, but that did not dissuade Thomas and his feelings for Michael.

I flew home, helped his family clean out his room, the funeral was a blur to me; I know I spoke but could not tell you what I said. I can not believe he is gone even today, months afterwards, his phone number still in my cell phone and his email. Thomas called me 3 days before his death to apologize for his behavior in June and that he was working through it, and was doing much better.




Was it one of his last calls? Claudette said, he had left her a few messages, but never got to talk to him. I got a call from Maine, the day of the funeral, and made and appointment to phone interview on Monday, of that week. I flew up to Maine on September 14 to interview on Saturday, September 15, 2007. I was offered the job, and was to start work on Monday, October 8, 2007. The person I was replacing was going on Maternity leave October 20, so I could get 2 weeks of training in with her.

I left on October 5 with my mom and her husband who flew down and then drove me up, I stayed on the property and on my days off looked for places to live.
Stephen packed up the house, and moved up here by October 20. Those two weeks away from each other was so hard, I missed him so much. We ended up staying on the property until November 8, when we moved into a rental house, 10 minutes from the Resort.

I will admit, after Thomas’ s death nothing was going to stop me from moving back to New England, this job was not paying the best, but to me it was being close to my family and friends.

November 2007 came in moved into our new place, mom and her husband came over to help unload the storage shed, we put up our pictures and making it our home. Stephen Feng Shei it and laid out our furniture. We drove to Avon, CT to spend Thanksgiving with the family it was incredible. My sisters and my husband played pool, sang and danced the evening away.

December 2007 – I have already talked about the first snow fall, our house in the woods and our first Christmas up in Maine. It is snowing again today, as I write this which is fine. We have no idea what 2008 is going to bring, but in my heart and soul, I know it will be better than 2007. I can get through almost anything, 2007 was a tough year, it started November 2006 and just seemed to get worse. Too many unexpected deaths, with men who had so much more of life to live.

My husband is working on getting his home business of the ground, on www.hdbizblog.com: Please look it up, to see if it something you might want to use, we will see you in 2008. Thank you for all your support in 2007.

This articles was in the Denver Paper today 12/27/07. I did not know this about Toby Keith but am very glad his family won, not for the money for the principle.

PURCELL, Okla. (AP) - Toby Keith, his mother and his siblings have been awarded $2.8 million in damages in the 2001 collision that killed the country music star's father.

A jury returned the verdict against Elias Rodriguez and Pedro Rodriguez, operators of Rodriguez Transportes of Tulsa, and the Republic Western Insurance Co. According to evidence presented at trial, a charter bus owned by the Rodriguezes was "in urgent need" of brake repairs before H.K. Covel was killed in the March 2001 accident on Interstate 35, said attorney Greg Dixon, who represented Keith's family.

The Rodriguezes had been advised of the brake problem before Covel's truck crossed the center median and struck the bus, he said. The family initially suspected Covel suffered a medical condition that caused the truck to veer out of control. It later learned another vehicle had bumped the truck and filed a wrongful death lawsuit to clear Covel's name, Dixon said. The verdict was returned last week. "The jury found no fault on the part of Mr. Covel in the wreck that claimed his life," Dixon said.

The plaintiffs, wife Carolyn Covel, daughter Tonni Covel and sons Toby Keith Covel and Tracey Covel, alleged that H.K. Covel would not have died if the bus had been equipped with properly working air brakes.

Christmas Recap:

I had a wonderful Christmas, we drove down from Maine to Mystic, CT on Sunday, Dec. 23 and stayed at the Residence Inn in Mystic. We did change rooms, the first room was nice but it was a Studio, I wanted a seperate bedroom, and luckily they could make that happen. We went and visited my brother and his family in Norwich to their house that I had never seen,they moved in when we moved south.

On Sunday, night, I met my friends Tom and Glenn out for a drink and some appetizers at AZU in downtown Mystic. Tom's girlfriend Judy and Glenn's Stephanie could not make it, so it was just us (3).

I love the food there, Tom and I have gone there everytime I have been home in the last year, as we walked in I met my friend Bill Hall who actually owns AZU, he and I worked in another restaurant together in Mystic, he is an excellent Chef, and loves working the front of the house, so a big CONGRATALATIONS! ON your new adventure, and so far it is a smash hit.

Stephen stayed in the hotel and met his friend Christian and they played "RISK", and then when I got back we went and ate Sushi, so I could get the dirt on Chrisitan and his girlfriend Jenn, they will have been together a year in January, so I wanted to see where it was going. My husband Love of my life, does not always ask the right questions what is with men? Then we came back and they again, played another game of Risk, and I watched movies. ( SEE WHY I NEED A SEPERATE ROOM)

Morning of Christmas Eve, we met our friend Claudette for breakfast at "Somewhere in Time" on Rt. 184 in Groton, it was fun, we laughed and talked about the upcoming year, and everything that happened in 2007, also about losing Thomas. Then Stephen and I drove to East Lyme, to "BOOK BARN', his favorite book store, we browsed in there for about 45 minutes, then met mom at the hotel and then went and picked up my sister Gwynne and family and met the ride to Avon for the Family Christmas Eve gathering at my sister Lynne's house. Unfortunately, not everyone was informed of the time change this year, so the 2nd flow started arriving around 6pm, when the rest of us were leaving due to it was 1 hour and 10 minutes from where we were staying. When we got back to the hotel, Stephen and I watched, " A Christmas Story" drank some wine.

Christmas Morning was at Gwynne's, where besides Lynn and her family everyone was there, my mom and her first husband and latest husband. It has become a family tradition to have Christmas Breakfast at Gwynne's in Mystic. My littlest neices Maddie and Lizzie were the hit as always, watching little kids open presents and their reactions always make it more special.

I am not sure if my neice Sarah (12) liked her journal but I am hoping she will appreciate it and keep it up throughour her life.

I love everything everyone gave me, Lynn and her family gave me slippers that I love!! Gwynne wine rack with wine to go into it (unfortunately, wine does not last to long in our house), mom way overboard - but thank you I love my Coat, boots, sweater, scarf, necklace and Stephen's camera!!

We drove home and arrived in Maine aroudn 430pm, we unpacked the car, I unpacked our suitcase, put on our pj's and opened CHampagne and we celebrated our own Christmas. It was wonderful.

We had a great Christmas how was everyone else's?

This will be us on New Y ears Eve, if we are still up at Midnight it will be a miracle. We have decided to treat it like a big holiday, and are having a Turkey Dinner with all the trimmings, so on New Years Day, we can have left overs. It is amazing but as you age, going out with alot of people on the street does not appeal to us. My dream New YEars Eve would be one of those big parties at a Hotel that you see in the old movies.

Where you get dressed up, eat dinner, dance and ring in the New Year with people you do not know which to us makes it even more fun. I am going to let you know are New Years Eve as a couple.

2003- Yantic River Inn- Went to dinner, they had (2) of the worse duo perform, at the ages of 39 and 34 we were the youngest people there the average age being 65 and UP. They gave us hats, horns and we danced, sang to make it better ( we are both tone-deaf and it seemed better), then at midnight all the older women came over to get kisses from Stephen. We laughed and had such a good time it was incredible.

2004-Yantic River Inn- no musicially group, but we still had a good dinner, split a bottle of wine and champagne, with the Money I won at the Casino the night before, then at Midnight, had a ringing in from the TV and went home and relaxed the next day.

2005- Just us, new to Charlotte, Stephen had to work late at the Book Store, so he came home we rang in the new year and was in bed by 12:10am.

2006- Had our new couple friends over for dinner, Foundue and Games. WE had so much fun we almost missed the ball drop in Times Square on TV, ended up playing until about 1am, it was a really good time.

This year, so far just the two of us because again in a new place, and do not have any friends as of yet. Luckily, we love it being just the two of us, as of March it will be 3 years we have been married, but sometimes we act like we are still newlyweds. I will let you know what we are doing.

Everyone have a Wonderful and Safe New Years, it will be interesting to see what 2008 brings.

Yesterday afternoon, I was released early from work, so my husband and I went shopping to get the last of the presents. The picture above is how I felt, croweded!! I realize going out the Friday before Christmas is crazy even worse is after work today, we are going out again. This time more selfish, I want a new shirt for Christmas Eve. Ever since I was a kid my mom either made us or bought us new outfits to see the family.

I can not afford to get a whole new outfit, so instead a new shirt will have the same affect for me, why is it for women 1 new item puts us at the top of the world? I for one, only need 1 new item on my person that makes me feel good about myself and I am a happy camper. I actually like all the presents I got this year for my family.

For my 12 year old neice Sarah I have brought her a blank journal. I started writing a journal at her age, I still have a journal. I look back at the ones from my early teens and on through all my relationships, break ups, tears and friendships that come in and out of your life through time. I find it touching, and when my memory fades somewhat, I can look it up for what really happened or how I was feeling at that time. To be honest this is my favorite gift, I gave one to my neice Lauren at this age, she is now 20 years old, still writes in her journal and is quite a wonderful writer, so I want to urge Sarah to take control of her emotions.

For a girl of 12 years old, you are not really a little girl any longer but not even close to the woman you will become, it is a hard time for you going through it, and tougher on your mom who wants her little girl back, but realizes that is not going to happen. Sometimes, you need a place to write everything you are feeling and expressing without judgement. I truly believe in keeping a journal. One of my therapist told me keep it but do not read back through it until at least a year after you wrote it, which every since I have done.

For my 10 year old nephew William my husband picked out a book for him, he is extremely smart and interested in everything. My husband was a smart boy, who's teachers did not engage him in school so he immersed himself in books (still does), and he wants to encourage William that it is ok, to be smart, just make sure you have the information to back up your convictions.

For my 17 year old nephew Michael, I went out looking but could not find anything he might like, I called my sister to find out what bands he likes thinking a Tee-shirt, even if not the band he likes, something to give me insight to my nephew. I remember when Michael was born, and that summer we went to Martha's Vineyard, I had Michael in my lap the whole time I love having neices and nephews. Now, he is taller than me ( as most people are due to I am 5'3), he has gone through the nasty stage 13-15 years old of boys. When I saw him on Thanksgiving, he gave me a big hug and at one point we were talking on the couch, he was so insightful on our family and funny. He is a good kid and may not be the book smart, but he will go places.

Lauren 20 years old, my 1st neice, is smart, funny, beautiful ( as my husband points out), in a classy way. She has had the same boyfriend since High School he is going to be a doctor and he goes to Georgetown, while Lauren is at University of Maryland. I had her as my Maid of Honor at my wedding because she is such a special girl, and who can pick between my sisters? She wants to finish college and move back to Avon, CT where she grew up, she loves her family and her hometown it will be interesting to see what happens in her life and all her decisions.

I have (2) More neices Lizzie age 4 miss personality, Maddie age 2 miss drama. These are my baby brother's daughters, it is amazing to see how my family has grown. My husband and I have not been blessed with children so I do watch out with more interest sometimes for my neices and nephews.

Isn't that what the Holidays are for?

This article below, stuck a cord with me and I am mad as H***, how dare Tom Cruise say anything negative to his children in regards to Nicole Kidman. I was a child of divorce, and my mom was very conscience to never say anything negative about my dad. Even when he did not show up when he promised, or he forgot a game or a birthday. She always, bent over backwards to make it as if she was the one who messed up. As we get older, we see it for what it is, but as you are growing you do not want one parent putting down the other.

I am not a huge a Tom Cruise fan to begin with, I am a Christian and do not belive in Scientologists, which is my right and it is his write to practice it, but do not go out and try to recruit other people. He gets a forum to spew his beliefs on everyone because of the media, why not give "real people" that right, to speak on the air for 5-10 minutes about our beliefs? The reason is we are not "Actors, actresses". Look at Oprah she is backing Obama but not on her show on the campaign trail where it belongs.

My heart goes out to Nicole Kidman, hang in there!! You deserve to be happy with Keith Urban and put your life with Tom behind you and when kids are involved it becomes so complicated, keep your head up you have done nothing wrong.

This article below is from FOX NEWS.

Tom Cruise’s press campaign against ex-wife Nicole Kidman takes a nasty turn this weekend.
Cruise lets new wife, Katie Holmes, tell Parade magazine that his two older children with Kidman, Connor and Isabella, call her "Mom."

For Kidman, who’s working in Australia wrapping up an epic film with director Baz Luhrmann, this had to sting. It’s bad enough that she has more or less acknowledged in interviews that the children, whom she and Cruise adopted as babies and whom she raised until the couple’s 2001 divorce, live full-time with Cruise. At the time of the divorce the boy was 8 and the girl 6. They certainly knew who their mother was.

Kidman also is a devout Catholic but has been forced to let Cruise raise the children as Scientologists — another blow, sources say. Cruise's sister home-schools Conor and Isabella in the works of Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard.

Holmes also was raised as a Catholic, but Cruise refused to let their baby, Suri, be baptized in the Church.

"You can be a Catholic Scientologist or a Jewish Scientologist," Cruise told Diane Sawyer in an interview. "We are just Scientologists."

The Cruise-Kidman divorce commenced unexpectedly in February 2001, when Cruise swiftly filed just a few weeks after the couple’s 10th anniversary. On his divorce petition, Cruise claimed the couple had not been married for a full decade, which was untrue. It was thought this was to avoid paying Kidman extra alimony.
What followed was bizarre: Six weeks after the filing, Kidman announced that she’d had a miscarriage. A mystery ensued: Why would Cruise have filed for divorce when his wife of a decade was six weeks’ pregnant with their baby? The couple previously had been unable to have children and instead adopted Isabella and Connor.
This latest jab of Cruise’s through wife Holmes is made even more bitter because of comments Kidman recently made about the children. She told interviewers last month that the children often call her "Nicole" and not "mommy." But that may have been taken out of context. As parents of teens know, they often are disrespectful or glib just to get attention.
Holmes, who is 29 and under Cruise’s constant control, may not fully understand the impact of what she told Parade. Friends say that being away from her children is "painful" for Kidman, who is considered one of Hollywood’s most agreeable and friendly players. She didn’t need to be blindsided while doing her job half a planet away from the children she loves.

Ok, it is the time of year you rack your brain for the perfect gift for your loved ones. My husband and I are having a bit of a money flow issue this Christmas, so we made sure to look for perfect gifts for our families and worry about ourselves later on. I have found some wonderful gifts for the women in my family it is the men I have some issues with. We are going out this afternoon, for my nephew Will (age 10), nephew Michael (age 17) and my brother in law Paul.

I have enlisted my sisters for their help, but they are as lost as myself. Now, If I had money, this is what I would buy for my wonderful husband of mine. I have written before on his obsession with the Store, "Levenger", he would love the Leather Mail Sorter, or the Bookcase and of course the Desk Chair. He goes on the webpage and drools, someday, we can shop like we want for now, he can have a picture of his dream. Personally, I love the Boulevard Tote from Levenger, I do not really need up here in Maine, but still want it.

My wonderful husband, shoveled our driveway (60 feet anyway) yesterday, and we are suppose to get more snow on Sunday. I can not believe he did it but it needed to be done and we can not afford to get it plowed. Another gift I would love to get him is a Hot Stone Massage at the Spa at Norwich Inn, I offered and he said "no" we will save up for it when we go up there in March to celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary.

He asked me what I wanted for Christmas, and I was flipping through the Oprah magazine at the time, and saw some wonderful gift ideas like teh Bathrobe by Derek Rose, or the Black Boots by Leslie Gallin, and of course the black trench coat, Lafayette 148 New York. But instead of saying any material thing, all I wanted for Christmas was him to be happy, healthy and his business become a success. He is working really hard on making his home business a success, we are getting by on my salary for now, as long as we stay healthy, have a roof over our heads and food on the table what else is there? We use no credit cards, so if we can not pay cash for it, we do not need it. I have always lived above my means, but for now, this will have to do.

I have never been happier, than I have been these last 3 years with Stephen. We are truly blessed people from the outside may not believe it, but we do. We are saving for our Anniversary to us that is a celebration. We got married late in life, but are still young at heart and newlyweds always have to find their way right?

I want to wish everyone out there a Very Merry Christmas, and realize what is really important in life not the materials it is the person you are sharing your life with, and God.

My favorite memory of Christmas came in 1970. My brother was born December 9, 1970 and I was 6 years old. I was so happy to have a little brother, and I would not let anyone walk on our front lawn until he came home from the hospital. Which in those days was about 2-3 days, not like now 24 hours and you are home. It had snowed the day he was born, and I just knew he would want to see the snow not stepped on our ruined in anyway, I was 6 so to me, I figured he could see even if he was 3 days old.

That Christmas Eve, I could not wait to show off my brother to the family. He was so chubby and cute, and the only way my mom would let me hold him was sitting down, I was so little but thought of myself as a little mother. My brother was the last child, and only boy in a family of 3 girls, my parents were divorced within the year, so this was my brother’s first and last Christmas with the whole family. We obviously, did not know any of that going into the Christmas Season.

Every year, since I could remember my mom’s family had Christmas Eve, when all the aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins would meet at someone’s house and we would celebrate together. We would eat, laugh take silly pictures of the all the kids in front of the tree, and dress up. We also got to open 1 present because it was Christmas Eve. My Grandmother was the patriach of the family and it was a tradition that even today ( I am 43) years old, my family holds on to, it doesn’t seem to be fairly divided about who would host it anymore, it seems to be between my two sisters and one cousin.

Myself, I live in Maine and usually in small apartments, 2 cousins live in MA, 1 in Vermont and single and another in New Hampshire, we always have it in Connecticut. I would love to host it this year, but doubt people would travel to the woods of Maine ON Christmas Eve. My mom wants to change this tradition this year, to be the Saturday before and then have just have her children and grandchildren up to Maine.

I got to thinking, how my grandmother might feel about that? She has been gone for a long time, my husband never knew her, but in my heart I believe she would of loved him. He is very fortunate to still have a grandmother, who he calls more than his own mom. We grew up so differently, but he respects that for me Christmas Eve is very important to me. The first year we were in Charlotte, NC we went to Chicago, to see his family for Christmas. After that, I was determined to only go to my family for Christmas. I will change my mind over time, but it is very important to me, and being a loving husband he understands.

My sisters each have (2) children a girl and a boy, my Brother now, has (2) little girls of his own, and he is so devoted to his family, and I know he has always wanted that family connection, he feels he lost out on a family. My mother did remarry when my brother was 6 years old, but to him it does not make up for your dad. We always visited my dad on weekends but it just isn’t the same. I don’t think any of us did not go unscathed in the divorce. I realize it is a part of life, but if you look at all of our choices in life concerning our own romances, there is definite decisions made because our family was divorced. I do not blame either of my parents seeing them now, I can not even imagine them ever married to each other.

Last Year, we drove 13 hours from Winston-Salem, NC to celebrate Christmas with my family. On Christmas Eve after my family function, I drove to see my best friends Thomas, Claudette and Tom G., we met at Thomas place in Noank, CT. On the way to Thomas’s, a deer hit us, I was going to try to back out of seeing Thomas but so glad I didn’t. WE had some cocktails my husband fell asleep and we drank, talked and played games, how was I do know Thomas would be gone before the next Christmas?

When I lived with Thomas we had such fun decorating for the holiday and having friends over, one year we decorated all the trees on the front lawn in a different color lights, it looked like you were driving into Candy land. Thomas loved Christmas, he would wrap the most beautiful packages, none in the same wrapping paper, every person had a special gift and special wrapping. Last year, he only shopped in Noank and if you have ever been there, there is only 2 places to buy items. I got a Noank beach towel, and a Carson’s Baseball hat. I love them and cherish them. This summer, I had the towel out every week at the Pool.

He loved all holidays but Christmas was so special to him, one year, we just stayed in our pjs’ all day watching the Christmas tree, eating, drinking and invited everyone over who had done Christmas with their families and needed some space. He was so a part of my life and my family, this year will be so different.

I hate how things have to change, but do really truly understand. So, this year we might celebrate my family Christmas early, will it really matter as long as we are all together? Grandma, can you believe we still carry on this family tradition? I think she would be happy to know the family still gets together at least once a y ear.

What does your family do for Christmas, what our your sweetest memories?

Yes, Santa is coming in 5 days. Can you believe it is Christmas time again? Today, I was watching the news and you can get a button that states it is Ok to Say Merry Christmas to me.

"It seems that the demand for at least one Christmas item lasted all year long.
The "It's OK to Say Merry Christmas to Me" buttons, a promotion adopted by a Catholic Daughters chapter last year, drew requests from 49 states through every holiday season from St. Valentine's Day through Thanksgiving."

I want one, I love saying, "Merry Christmas" it makes me get into the whole spirit of Christmas. Can you imagine Scrooge saying, "Happy Holidays" and not Merry Christmas or Tiny Tim for that matter?

I resolve to say, Merry Christmas to everyone I see in the next 5 days, I will write more if anything happens.

SO MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR.

When I was in High School (25 years ago), I was on the Swim Team, which I loved. I was backstroker along with Bob Hines, who was #1, and I was #2, a few times we switched off depending on the times, but usually he was #1.

I remember thinking it was sexist back then because our coach was a Italian Male, who by the way could not swim, but looking back Bob deserved it, and I got over it. I saw Bob at my high school reunion this past summer, and we had such a nice time together.

I bring this up, because I was just reading my hometown paper, the New London Day on line of course, and I noticed in the Wedding Section, my old Swim Coach's daughters are both getting married in 2008. One in the Summer at Water's Edge and the other in the Fall at the Towers. I had not thought of Vinnie in such a long time. He was not the best coach, but he did his best for us, even the first season swimming at Avery Point in Groton 6pm-9pm during the week. That is where the Home Swim Meets were and being Olympic Size pool opposed to the Norwich YMCA where you would have to do 2x the laps it was a dream.

Now, if you were never on a swim team it might escape you that the sport is during the winter, so swimming in a non-heated pool and then getting out, not the best feeling in the world. We were not the best swim team, we did have some outstanding performances, our diving team did go to States, and Dave the 500, was amazing to watch. Vinnie did the best he could for us, and I hope he knows how much we appreciated his effort.

Being in the wedding business, my heart goes out to him to have 2 daughters planning their dream weddings at the same time. It does amaze me how fast time goes by as I get older, so I wanted Vinnie to know I did love my experience on the NFA Swim Team.

Reality TV update:

ILOVE NEW YORK: Tiffany and her mom Sister Patterson again clashing over which men is best for Tiffany (NY). NY let Punk go and her final two are Buddha and Tailor Made. Tailor Made is still married, and Buddha has a temper and is only in it for the limelight. What got me was when NY let the Entertainer go, she said, he is a loser and she is going to the top, doing what reality tv? You are in the middle of your 15 minutes, get over yourself. Personally, I think she should pick Buddha because he is the only man who will not bendover and let her walk all over him, she needs a strong man. I do love to watch Sister Patterson, trying to get Tailor Made in the race, because now that all the men she liked are gone, she would rather have a married man than Buddha for her Tiffany. Finale should be interesting.

Project Runway: I feel awful for Jack he was in my mind one of the front runners, it must of been awful for him, to get on the show, get so far and then get sick. I hear he is doing fine, now but it is quite a disappointment, maybe he can try out next year, like that other guy who was 1st out on the 1st season came back for the 2nd season and was like 3rd off the show. I am happy to see Chris March back, Love him!! Stephen I think could do better, Ricky pulled it out this week, but really how much longer? Christian needs to check his ego at the door you are "21" seriously, what do you know about life? Great job this week, but your comment about being about time? So, put me off, he needs to be taken down a peg or two. Jillian loved the red dress, I wouldn't of used her outfit either, it worked for her and she looked comfortable and happy. What is Elise up to now? STRANGE WOMAN!! She is fun to watch, just to see what she is going to do.

Housewives of OC: Quinn, you are a Cougar, no one is going to think you are the same age as Jerry. Also, the fact you don't like being single, my gosh are we back in the 1950's, and by the way what do you do for a living? Vicki - it looked like you had fun in Seattle with Michael now doing and internship, you realize he wants to make money not actually work right? You have instilled in both your kids the value of working for a living, so stop being so in their face all the time,they are good kids who need some space from mom. Laurie, I loved the $18,000 wedding dress on you, it was perfect and so beautiful. I hope your wedding was everything you thought it would be, I loved watching you finally find a good man in the last 3 years on the show. Tamara love her, and the way she is working mom, and telling her son Ryan to get a job. Jeanna, divorce Matt and go out and find a man who will appreciate you, for who you are, and what you can bring to the relationship.

Beauty and the Geek Finale: I love that Dave and Jasmine won, they had worked so hard, but I wanted to know if Dave and Nicole are dating since they both live in Boston. They both looked so great at the Finale. You talked about Sam and Rebecca but not the other couple in the house that was forming why are not Geeks as much fun as beautys?

Real World Sydney: I am actually not watching it but once in awhile I will flip around, what is with the Brunette and the Blonde, I saw them fighting at least 3x while flipping around. Is this the most hostile household? Like Las Vegas, being the most sexual? Personally, my favorites:
1. NY Season 1, 2. San Franscico Puck 3. LA with Tammy and Beth and 4. New Orleans.

Top Chef Holiday Special: YEAH Tiffany deserved to win, about time, can not wait to see Top Chef Chicago 2008, love this show. I hear Tom Colicchio is opening a new restaurant at Foxwoods Casino in CT. My area of the state, I look forward to the opening.

Questions: Brett Michaels is he with the girl who came in 2nd because that is who he should of ended up with and is Lacey still trying to make a living singing give it up girl and live on your trust fund.

I really admire and respect Oprah how can you not? She has worked so hard to get where she is and genuinely seems to appreciate people and what they do in their lives to make it a success.

Today, I sent a email to her from her magazine ( thank you mom for getting it for me), about productivity, because I did notice in her magazine there is things in there for each person, but does not seem to have articles on how to be more productive in your life. My husband has a websight all about productivity www.hdbizblog.com/blog. it may seem I am apparently selling my husband, this is not it. (maybe alittle bragging)

He has written and e-book on the subject, and made it easy to read right on line so you do not have to print the 28 pages (ink is expensive). My business is all about productivity, and detail oriented, especially due to being back in the wedding business. His book can help people and I passed it on to someone I respect. Nothing may come of it, but you never do know.

I will always like Oprah, to me her Book Club was/is great, she has had some of my favorite authors on there, my husband and I are huge readers so anything to bring it to the masses is only for the greater good in life. I hate to hear people say, books are out because of technology, I truly do not believe it. As Meg Ryan's character says in " You've got mail", when you read a book as a child it becomes part of yourself and who you become.

My Aunt Joan every Christmas would give me a book, and every year, I would be so excited to see what book I would get, to me a book someone chooses for you is one of the most personal gifts someone can give to you. As I get older, I get gift cards, just as good because when I am short of money, I still love going to the book store even just to browse and write down what my next book will be. We have spent many Sunday afternoons in bookstores looking for a copy of this and that, but it has to be a certain style for me.

I have found a great old copy of "Gone with the Wind" by Margaret Mitchell in a Flea Market, or my warn copy of "Peyton Place" or " To Kill a Mockingbird". For me personally, I like to go to used book stores and get the classics that are not brand new, if there is writing in the margins, I want it even more to see what the other person's perspections of the book were, and make up my own story of who they are.

Even if I never hear from you Oprah, you are wonderful for everything you do for the world.

This is my friend Robert Woodward, it has been 6 years since he was killed in a Church in Vermont. Every year at this time I write something to support "Justice for Woody", I have attached the article of what happened on that fateful day, December 2, 2001. From the websight Justice for Woody.

The summer after Woody's death my high School had it's 20th class reunion, and he was all the topic. He had affected so many people, if he never knew it I am sorry for that, he is very much missed. I always say a prayer to his parents at this time of year. Here is the story:


Robert Woodward, 'Woody', our dearly beloved friend, entered the All Souls Unitarian Universalist Church in West Brattleboro, Vermont around 10 AM on Sunday morning, December 2, 2001, and pleaded to the assembled congregation to give him political asylum, explaining that government authorities sought to torture and kill him. Very quickly the children were taken outside, and church president Charles Butterfield went to the office to place a 911 call. According to Charles he requested plainclothes officers be dispatched and related that Woody was "deathly afraid" of authorities. At some point most of the congregation left the room. While that was occurring Woody took out a pocket knife and pointed it at his face threatening to hurt himself if people did not stay to bear witness for him. Eighteen people decided to heed Woody's plea and stay. When a parishioner told Woody he was scaring people, he apologized and put away the knife. Another parishioner gained Woody's trust and sat down next to him, then attempted to make phone calls for him on a cell phone.
Just as the calls were being attempted, and only about 14 minutes after Woody entered the church, three Brattleboro police officers, dressed in body armor and carrying pepper spray and semiautomatic 40 caliber pistols, entered the room and advanced on Woody. When Woody saw the police he jumped up and again took out the knife and pointed it at his face. Some witnesses heard shouts of "drop the knife" but others could not understand what the police were saying.
Within less than a minute of the police entering, two of the three policemen shot seven rounds into Woody. A fusillade of shots followed the first two shots, so rapid that to some witnesses it sounded like a single shot. One detailed account describes the police firing the fusillade of rounds into Woody as he was lying on the floor, curled up in a fetal position, and holding the knife to his face. The police had made no attempt to use negotiation or nonlethal restraint such as their pepper spray to subdue Woody.
While Woody lay on the floor bleeding heavily and with a shattered elbow, the police proceeded to handcuff his wrists behind his back, forcing him to his stomach. The police refused repeated requests from a physician present that the handcuffs be removed so she could access his wounds to stop the bleeding.
43 minutes elapsed between the time of the shooting and the time Woody arrived in the emergency room of the local hospital 3 miles away. It took over three and one half hours to move Woody to the Dartmouth-Hitchcock hospital which had the facilities needed to treat his heart trauma. He died shortly after arriving there around 2 PM.
Every one of the witnesses who has been willing to talk publicly has maintained that Woody never threatened anyone but himself.
Woody had never had a run-in with the law. He was known for his rationality and equanimity.

You will never be forgotten Woody.

I was one of the lucky people who came of age in the 1980's. I went through the archive to find what I thought was so 1980's and it was Madonna. It was fun going to google and hitting pictures of the 1980's and to see what pops up.

Things you forgot, or did not realize was during that time, Exxon Spill, Princess Diane marries Prince Charles, Dynasty was the number 1 show, and of course Shoulder Pads!!

The reason I am bringing this up, is that my mom's second marriage broke up in 1988, and this week my stepfather (even though divorced he is there for me) wrote me a letter and wants me to pass something on to my mother. It is for her eyes only, and to me it is so romantic. I was trying to explain to my husband what they were like when they were together. It got me thinking of how so many things change in life, and decisions are made right or wrong, but you have to live with what happens.

Look at Madonna, in the above picture, she started out in the business and right from the start she was a strong woman who had her own ideas of style, rights and songs, now look at her? She is married, keeps a low profile, raising her two children and writes children books, did you think the Material Girl would ever have that in 1986?

I saw that Miley Cyrus had a 80's theme birthday party, which makes me feel so old, my friend Lori in Charlotte, NC loves going to clubs that are 80's retro. To her it is retro for me it was my life. I have really thick hair, so you can imagine how big I could tease it, think Jami Gertz in Jersey Girl hair. I remember when Demi Moore was on General Hospital and John Stamos as Blackie.

Sometimes, I feel as if I am still in my early 20's and ready to go out to the clubs to dance to Billy Jean with my shoulder pads so big you have to go in the door sideways. What was with the socks over the nylons in heels? It made my feet sweat so I have no idea why we did that except it seemed to be the trend at the time. The other trend I really hated was dressing like your favorite performer. There were alot of Madonna want a be's but my favorite is my sister Gwynne, we would call her "Girl Gwynne" because she dressed like guess who?
"Boy George" big over coat and hat.

The ironic thing is in the 80's she followed " Grateful Dead" for a whole summer, but she was definately one of a kind. I loved the 80's and part of me would love to go back, but only if I could go back in time with the knowledge and the confidence I have today. Would you go back in time if you could? When, and why? What decision would you change?

A chain Restaurant not be missed "Dicks Last Resort" Bring your sense of humor you will need it.

Part 3 of 3

This might be extended, but I wanted to finish up my take on Great Restaurants, that I have been to and why to me they are the best:

A friend of mine said once, that her and her husband do not go to chain restaurants. Well, I thought of that statement and thought, oh yeah me neither, but then I realized that is not true. Best Bargain: Olive Garden Soup and Salad, comes with bread sticks for $5.95 Per Person, and they will refill the Soup and Salad as many times you would like, my husband usually goes with 2 bowls of soup and we do go through (2) Bowls of Soup and (2) Orders of the Bread Sticks. Well worth the Price… BEWARE: of the Olive Garden on Independence Drive in Charlotte, WORSE SERVICE EVER!!

Best China Buffet: East – Charlotte, NC $7.95 all you can eat dinner, on Saturday’s and Sundays it is $10.95 Still worth it. You can even take out by the Pound. So much variety, service is great, helpful and quick.

Best Places that we love, but are special occasions due to Price: The first two are chains:

Big Bowl – Chicago IL area -Big Bowl is a pioneering Asian restaurant, vibrant in design and cuisine, offering the latest in authentic Chinese and Thai food. Using market-fresh ingredients, Big Bowl's signatures include "dim-sum sized" appetizers, pad Thai, seafood, some truly hot and spicy food, and fresh made ginger ale. Big Bowl believes that the origin of your food says a lot about the quality and flavor, that's why Big Bowl buys seasonal produce from local framers and only serves heirloom pork and all natural, antibiotic free chicken that's raised on family farms. Don't forget Big Bowl when planning a festive occasion. Big Bowl brings both ingredients for any good party, great food and great surroundings. True Chinese and Thai food can be enjoyed at four Big Bowl Locations-one at Cedar and Rush, another at Ohio and State and one in Lincolnshire and Schaumburg. Big Bowl- For Fresh Chinese and Thai! We had went after we each had massages during our honeymoon, and it was so fresh and good, we could not get enough and during our week in Chicago we went 2 more times to the other locations.
Capital Grille- Providence, RI, Chicago, IL and Charlotte, NC We love all of these, service is incredible no matter which one you go to and the food is excellent. You will spend money, to us well worth it. Our favorite is Providence, due to we were there the night after our wedding, we were flying out of Providence the next day for our honeymoon and we went there, when we called for reservations the hostess asked if it was anything special we were celebrating. Of course, we told them and when we got there, complimentary glasses of Champagne and a dessert.


Melting Pot- Greensboro, NC – The only one we have been to, you will be there for atleast 3-4 hours, my advise do not eat much during the day, because you will be stuffed when you leave. We were lucky enough to go with another fun couple, we shared everything, had wines, cocktails and the bill was well over $200.00 but to us WORTH IT! This was the best service I had ever seen, the waitress knew what she was doing and was never intrusive, but helpful with suggestions. We thoroughly enjoyed this experience because that is what it is.

A few more places, I love that our not chains ( not that I know of anyway)

Best Breakfast: Noah’s Stonington, CT

Best “fun” bar, no matter your age: Stash’s New London, CT and old friend of mine Graham Thompson ( Sugardaddy band) – has kept up the fun, bands at Stash’s.

Best Rueben: Now, this is a toss up for me, Foothills in Winston-Salem, NC is high on my list, but I believe my Best would have to go to North End Deli, Groton, CT

Best Cajun: The Cajun Queen- Charlotte, NC – I took my husband here for his first birthday we were celebrating in Charlotte, December 2005. Sat in the Red room, had so much fun.Enjoy the friendly, laid-back atmosphere of 'Nawlins without having to leave your back yard. Experience the sensation of true New Orleans cuisine has never been easier. We have a number of entree and drink specialties, including Dixie Beer - the beer that made New Orleans famous!

Best Wine Bar: 6th and Vine- Winston-Salem, NC sit out on the Patio in the back, yes there is one there. The food is so good, definitely try their Cheese Platter while drinking the wine you will very much enjoy the experience. Small, so does get crowded on Friday afternoons.

Best Brunch: Too many to choice from, but here is a few different places:Boudreaux Louisiana Kitchen- Charlotte, NC Cajun style, fun sit outside if you can, worth it to watch all the people around the NODA section of Charlotte.
Village Tavern- Winston Salem, NC
Bintliff’s American Café- Portland, ME

Honorable Mention Places
Beale Street- Bath, ME BBQ
BUBBA’s BBQ- Charlotte, NC
LEXINGTON BBQ- Winston-Salem, NC

What are your favorite places? Please share, my husband and I love to travel and find new restaurants, as that happens, we might be adding to this list.

Can you believe it will be 2008 in 23 days? It really blows my mind sometimes how fast time really does go by. When you are young the adults in your life tell you that but you really do not believe them because as a child you are waiting to be old enough to go to the movies alone, then your drivers licence then to drink (Legally), then the perfect job right out of college.

Then you reach a certain age, and you are wondering why your hips are bigger, you have to be in bed by 10pm because otherwise you will not look good in the morning. You wonder when you will retire and if you can afford it, to me I still feel sometimes as if I am in my early 20's just starting out in life. Due to the fact, I got married at 40 years old for the first and only time, my husband likes to say, " We are a young couple just trying to find our way in the world." That would be true if we got married at 25 or so, not 40 years old, you would think we are settled and now we are making room for each other in the whole picture.

Where did all the time go? What have I done with my life? So, when it becomes a new year, it is normal to look back and do a retrospective of your life and what is the next stage, or next adventure? Mine right now, is to get through my first Maine winter, and see where life leads me.

WE FOUND OUR OWN STARRS HOLLOW FINALLY!!


Last night, we went for a drive around Bath to see all the Christmas Lights, this is what downtown looked like, it was a winter wonderland. We are getting more snow either today or tomorrow morning. I am still excited about the snow but it is blowing my mind that it is the beginning of December, what is January and February going to hold?

My husband's car seems to be stuck in the snow and could be until Spring at the rate we are going, we really do have to find someone to plow us out for now we are nestled in the woods, and plan our trips out carefully. We have 4 wheel drive in the Jeep ( which is good) but with gas prices the way they are, we have to be very careful not to be over indulgent on our driving for no reason. I just felt the need to get out of the house last night, the husband has been stuck in the house all day by himself and I felt he deserved to get out. It is tough when you have a job and you work from home all alone.

My younger baby brother is coming up this weekend and staying at my mom's in Naples ME. He and his wife, I believe are driving over to see us on Sat. late afternoon, they have to park at the Resort due to our driveway not being shoveled or plowed. If anyone moves to Maine, when you talk to your landlords ask about plowing - alot include in rental, ours does not but we should of gotten a recommendation.

I am excited to see my brother and to show him where we live, he loves it up here. I am hoping he and his family move up to Maine within the year, so we are closer than 4 hour drive.

The Lamb pub see bottom of post:

Restaurants 2 of 3

I left off at Best Chowder, and believe me, I know there will be many of people out there who will definitely disagree or have their own opinions please feel free to write about them in the comment section.

BEST ICE CREAM:Mad Martha's in Vineyard Haven on the Island of Martha's Vineyard. When my family started going to Martha's Vineyard back in the 80's, we just loved to go downtown and eat Ice Cream. Homemade delicious and of course different varieties then any other, be prepared to wait in line for this Ice Cream but it is well worth the wait. If you want soft serve, no one beats Dairy Queen as far as I am concerned and no matter which Dairy Queen it is always great. Niantic Dairy Queen and Groton Dairy Queen in CT in the summer always have a line, not much of a shocker if you like soft serve ice cream and the Blizzard!! How can you resist putting oreo cookie pieces of cookie dough into Ice Cream? They have any flavor you would want, Reeses Pieces, M &M and don't forget the sprinkles, personally Rainbow Sprinkles are my favorite.

BEST ITALIAN: OK, I have a few favorites on this in 3 different states:
Rhode Island - Basta's Italian Restaurant - Cranston RI - Authentic Italian Food, small but incredible veal!!
Connecticut - Anthony J's - Mystic. Small, intimate bistro No reservations allowed. You will wait but well worth it, try to get a window seat if possible. I always go for the specials on the board, when I have gone for lunch it is best to get a salad to split with your other guests because you will not eat it all and save room for your entree. Skip has been in business along time and always consistant and great.
Paul's Pasta- Groton. Small, casual be prepared to smell like garlic and taste it for a few days, they make their own homemade pasta, I always get 1/2 portion because I will never be able to finish a whole portion and then I get a salad with the garlic dressing. Cost under $10.00 for the food and wine and beer only. Go in the Spring and SUmmer and enjoy their patio.
MA - Ristorante Fiore- Boston. "One of the true gems of Boston's Historic North End is the fine casual dining of Ristorante Fiore. Authentic Italian Cuisine such as homemade pastas, seafood and veal and a one-of-a-kind dining experience make Ristorante Fiore a popular choice among locals and tourist alike. Enjoy your dinner in any of our three charming dining rooms or sidewalk café. Ristorante Fiore also offers the only seasonal rooftop dining making this the hottest spot in the North End. A perfect place for dinner and cocktails any night of the week."

I love Italian Food, when I would go out to dinner with the family I would go to Gondolier in New London (GONE), the dark wood in the dining rooms, the line of people drinking their wine in the hallway, no one complaining because it was always worth the wait.

My husband is not a big Italian food eater, so he and I do not really have any experiences together on this.

BEST BREW PUB: Well this could be a bit tricky but here goes for where I know. To me a good Brew Pub is the beer is good. Personally, I like a deep rich beer, like a Harp's or a Stella but not as deep as a Guiness.

Winston-Salem, NC : Foothills Brew Pub, Reccommend the Pilot Mountain Pale Ale or the Hoppyum Ale - Love their Sandwichs on the thick bread, and their French Fries just be prepared they have made their own Ketchup.Sampler of Beer worth the Price. If you have a private party, get the private room to the side, so much fun in there at one long table.

Greensboro, NC: Natty Greene's Pub & Brewing: Recommend the Old Town Brown Ale, also sit outside on their patio, you can see everything going on, and it wonderful. One of the best Reuben Sandwiches and believe me, my husband and I love Reuben's.

LONDON ENGLAND: In 1987, I went there with and old boyfriend and we worked in a Pub for two weeks as a bar couple, we lived above the Pub at that time Pubs were open until 11am then closed until 3pm, then close at 11pm. The picture at the top is of the Pub we worked at, called

The Lamb- Those windows I am showing you are so after people order they can close them so you do not have to talk to the "help". This was a wonderful place, we had regulars from the Teaching Hospital across the way, which made me rethink getting sick in London. Women drank 1/2 pints, because pints are for men, even though women could out drink the men. There was a dirty old man who had a cane ( he did not need), to lift pretty girls skirts up, he ripped my little slit a few time. At one time they got a baseball from a UCONN Coach who had visited and they were arguing about Cricket vs. Baseball. They could not believe how light the baseball was, then started to throw it around inside. We stopped them and brought them outside and taught them how to play Baseball. WE had fun, but believe me they will stick to their Cricket.

This was a Young's Brew Pub- Meaning the Brewery and the Beer is from Youngs. I love Young's brew pub but my favorite in London was Windmill on the Common, a WhiteHall Brewery tub Clapham South, well worth the ride.

MYSTIC CT: Harp and Hound, it was where my husband and I fell in love, but it run by and Irish couple from Dublin. One mothers day, my mom, sisters and I sat in there and had a ball drinking and laughing while my husband chased the kids.

What are your favorite restaurants? I have more to go it may be longer than a 3 part series, there are so many great places, what are yours and why?

PART 1 of 3
This morning in the New London Day, which restaurant reviews come out onThursday's. He wrote his top (4) Places and why he loved them, so I have decided to kind of follow suit. My husband and I enjoy going out to dinner, and lately due to lack of funds if we are going out we make sure it is a place we love. We do not ever regret spending that money but it has to be worth it, from Atmosphere, Service and Food we look at everything. We have both been in the restaurant business so we are harsh critics. I have (2) big pet peeves when it comes to eating out, if we are seated someone should acknowledge us within 3 minutes, even if to say, " I will be right with you." If I have to wait longer than 3 minutes I am ticked off, and the tip will reflect that even if the rest of the service is good. I need acknowlegement, if I know you will be right back due to being a bit busy, I understand. They may sound harsh, I had a manager tell me within the first 30 seconds of being seated the customer has to have a napkin down to acknowledge you have been there.

My 2nd is the salt and pepper shakers and sugar caddy should be full and clean. If I can see light through the salt or pepper that is not right, and the sugar caddy should not have scum at the bottom of it.

My Friend Thomas's pet peeve, if he did not have drink in his hand within 5 minutes of sitting, he will make a scene, and the waiter better get it right and not make him send it back. Believe me, when we went out in Mystic Luckily we went to places that knew him and would have his drink waiting for him when he sits down. ( Just easier) He tormented a server in Boston once, unfortunately, the server snapped back at him, not a good scene.

Ok, here are some of my favorite restaurants and explanation:
Best Hamburger: Ready for the name: HMMMMMMMM!! Wisconsin. I had never been to Wisconsin and in March 2004 my husband took me out to meet his family in Pecatonica, IL we had become in engaged March 5, 2004 and we flew out the next week to meet the family. We were going for a drive and I mentioned I have never been to Wisconsin so we drove to Wisconsin as we crossed the border from Illnois, we saw the sign for this place and stopped and had a burger. The best ever! Thick, juicy with french fries and a beer. We loved it, the name alone got us but once you are inside worth the long drive.

Best Sushi: Singapore Grill & Sushi Bar New London, CT. Believe me, we have tried places in Chicago, Charlotte, Winston Salem, Rhode Island, Boston not yet Maine. Service alone is wonderful but they always have the freshest and the best presentations.

In any case, it's not that chef/owner Sonny Chok wants his Singapore's Grill & Sushi Bar to be some sort of exclusive restaurant savored only by a select group of insiders. Despite the pretty small confines of the dining areas and occasional short waits to get a table, it's likely that the devoted fans of the place would never begrudge newcomers the sumptuous joys therein.

To go along with the cozy but colorfully authentic atmosphere is the courteous and helpful staff, headed up by chef Sonny. He's amazing in not just his culinary skills and ambitiously realized menu, but also as a cheerleader for his fusion of Asian foods. He bustles around the restaurant, greeting old and new customers happily. He has a diagnostician's innate ability to probe his guests' likes and curiosities — and invariably recommends a dish or special that will not only satisfy but will also broaden perspective and appreciation.

Best Pizza: Now, my husband is from Illnois so for him hands down is Pizzeria Duo in Chicago which is the first Pizzeria Uno. Deep Dish all the way, our first trip to Chicago, we had to go there for lunch and everytime we go back, yes that is our lunch. Now, when we lived in CT we had to drive 40 minutes to Rhode Island for a Pizzeria Uno, now in Rhode Island driving more than 15 minutes for anything is bizarre to a real Rhode Islander. They never really understood us driving from CT to have a Pizza but it is a treat for my husband. In Charlotte, we had to drive 30 minutes for it, here in Maine an hour which we will be doing next weekend. It is right near the mall, so Christmas shopping and Pizza can you beat it or what.

Personally, I am a New York Style Pizza Girl - My favorite is Park Lane Pizza on Park Lane, West Hartford, CT at one time in my life I lived next door to this pizzeria. We would go for a pizza and pitcher of beer and not spend more than $20, we were in college so for us that was and still is the best pizza. Calzones on the other hand must go to Luna's in West Hartford, CT.

Best Chowder: Being from New England, I love Rhode Island style - Clear Broth, Authentic New England Chowder - Cream Broth but to be honest my favorite is Manhatten Style - Red Broth. Hard to distinquish which is best, Rhode Island Style I would go with the Black Pearl in Newport, RI. For New England Style so many to choose from to be honest. My Aunt Joan always had the best recipe, Fishersman Wharf stand in San Franscico served in a Bread Bowl is my top of my list but my absolute favorite was The Fisherman in Noank, CT when Jim Bennet was the chef. He has moved on to Zach's now in Stonington Bourough which makes me think that is the best now. It is definately the best Hotdog place.

This is it for now, I will write more of my restaurant choices in my next post.

Yesterday, was the first snow fall here in Maine. It was beautiful.

After, he dug out our Jeep, we had "FUN", you would think we were children again. First we drove to the Grocery Store and stocked up, then we came home and bundled up more, and went down to Popham Beach and did donuts in the parking lot. Went for a walk down to the beach, but after about 5 minutes with the wind and sleet pelting us we went back home.

We just played outside in the snow, then made hot chocolate with marshmallows. I put on the movie, "Holiday Inn" and decorated the house. It was incredible to watch the snow fall, and to me it was wonderful.

It is still snowing today, I do realize the glow of the first snow, will pass, and I may be sick of snow by January, but for now I am enjoying the Glow and watching the snow fall. It really is beautiful on the Coast of Maine. Obviously, not alot stops due to snow in Maine. What do you do for the first snow fall? Make snow angels, sledding or just building a snowman? Enjoy it, act like a child no matter what it is still a wonder to me the First Snow fall. My husband seems to love watching me act like a child during the snow storm.

Children are too precious to hurt, wise up world, they deserve to be protected...

I saw the article below: on the Fox News station and it is so very upsetting. This week, on Fox News was also the story of Baby Grace, (unidentified) child who was abused. WHY?? My husband and I unfortunately, have not been blessed with children, we would love to have a house full of children. So, when I read about people abusing children, I am even more upset than any normal person would be, please there are so many people in the world who can not have children, go to your local church, police office even child services and give your child over to them to place them with people who will cherish them, do not hurt them or worse kill them. They are precious.

This two boys deserve better parents then these two animals. This is not the only case, there are so many, this one caught my eye today.

CHIPPEWA FALLS, Wis. — A man and wife from Cadott face child neglect charges that include allegations they duct-taped their two boys together as they stood outside without their pants and also poured water on them.
A criminal complaint filed in Chippewa County Circuit Court said the case began Oct. 18 when a sheriff's investigator and social worker spoke with a 6-year-old boy at Cadott Elementary School who had bruising around one hip, across his back and on the left jaw and ear area.
Investigators said they learned the boy's mother slapped him on the face and his stepfather punished him with a belt. They said they also learned of an incident in which the boy was hit with a belt and then had to stand duct-taped to his 7-year-old stepbrother as they were standing outside with no pants on and water was poured on them.
The 28-year-old husband was charged with two counts of physical abuse of a child and one of causing mental hart to a child. His 27-year-old wife was charged with two counts of child neglect and one of causing mental harm by failing to protect a child.
The are scheduled to be in court Jan. 2.